Is marriage a right?

Is marriage a right? If so, then why does it require a license? Could it be that marriage is merely a privilege?

I’ve heard a lot of talk about rights in the ongoing debate over marriage in the U.S., but I’m wondering whether people are using the wrong vocabulary.

disagreement = hate?

Why do some people so quickly and broadly attach the label of “hate” to those who disagree with them?  It’s kind of a strong word, don’t you think?  And very personal.  Speaking for myself, there are many people whose opinions are different from mine, but whom I quite like nonetheless.  Aren’t we supposed to celebrate this diversity?  Granted, hateful people exist; I, myself, regret the many occasions I have been mean to someone in an argument.  But I don’t think there’s anyone on this earth that I genuinely hate.

Someone might feel so passionate about an issue that she says, “If you disagree with me on this, then you’re against everything I am.”  It would be a shame if she felt that way, because a person is so much more than their opinions.

I would hope that those who believe they are hated because of disagreement would take a chance on being proven wrong.

Bad reasons to vote for someone

Not that we should all be political gurus, but when voting for someone we should at least have a reason.  However, there are some bad reasons that I think are, at best, not enough for an informed decision; at worst, they could result in an unwise choice.

He/she must be better than who we have now.

This position may manifest itself in intellectual laziness in examining a candidate’s opinions and character.   The truth is, in most cases it probably could be much worse.

He/she emphasizes promises of better treatment for a specific class of people.

Don’t you want a leader who will treat all classes of people equally and without preference?  If you were a member of a different class, would you feel the same way?

He/she will be the first <fill in the blank> to hold this office.

Making history is not a sufficient reason to vote for someone.

He/she is “different.”

“Difference” is not inherently beneficial.

He/she is committed to completely reversing our currently policy on <insert conservative/liberal social issue>.

Whoa!  The abrupt overturning of any social policy in which many Americans are invested can’t be undertaken lightly.  Major social changes must be made carefully and with serious thought to their worthiness and ramifications in both the short and long term.  Even if you agree with the change, you have to examine what the real-life effects of that change will be.

Belief and Anti-Belief

It’s not enough to define yourself by what you don’t believe in.   Sometimes people focus on being against a certain thing: their position may be anti-racism, or anti-government, or anti-abortion, or anti-Republican, or whatever.   They may not use these words, but at the core of their belief is a fundamental sense of being opposed to something.  But if you’re against one thing, it must mean that you’re for something else — otherwise there remains only an intellectual vacuum.

Do you have something you believe in?